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Hey guys! Found out today I have a stomach infection ):

But I'm fine :D Same old Nina.

So yea :P

I'll be trying to blog more. I hope XD With EOY in one months time ): Anyways, I hope everyone is doing good! Have a great weekend!


xoxo, 
Neko Nina (Neko means cat in Japanese hehe I think...?)

Don't comapre

Hey guys today I'll be talking about comparison

So I guess (presume) everyone compares themselves to other. Often we compare other people too. Well to me, comparison is a good thing! Most people use it to push themselves and improve in their own ways be it in studies or anything else!

However, comparison can bring along a lot of stress and harm ):

Today I'll just be ranting and taking about the damage comparison brings and maybe a few points here and there about the good sides of comparison.

Okay well, I'll be talking mostly about my own experiences and myself so again if your not interested stop scrolling :)

Hope you like it!

First of all, I'm someone who loves to compare myself to other. This helps me in different ways like my studies but it also demoralises me... a lot. You see, when we compare, we usually look at the persons capabilities, what he or she has and you don't look at their flaws. Why does she have such good look? Why is he stronger? Why does she have so many followers? Why is he so popular?

Unless what you want is achievable, all these questions will only bring you down. Its totally normal for humans to compare each other but sometimes we over do it and end up feeling like 💩

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As most of you know, my Mother teaches in the same school as me. More specifically, the same secondary school as me and furthermore, she is the HOD (head of department) of English. My mom is very efficient in her work she is super organised and I really have a lot of respect toward her in that. So I feel sometimes, when I get new teachers, they somehow expect me to be like my Mom. Sigh. I feel it is actually super demoralising because firstly, my studies are not that good and also, I am nothing like my Mom. So there came a point where I felt everything was so demanding for me. Why did everyone have such high expectations, why was I always falling behind my Mom's shadows? Why couldn't everyone just accept who I was? 

That was a dark period of time. I had to handle a lot of things. The stress level did not really help too. I could not do as much art pieces and I feel very pressurised and as if no one knew the pain I was going through. Test after test, the homework never stopped coming in. I still recall that I spent most of my nights sleeping with a wet pillow and tear drops still sitting on my face.

So I finally came to a stage where I said: Enough is enough. I must stop comparing myself I am who I am. I went to talk to both my parents individually and I felt much better after pouring everything out. Haha I remember crying in the car to my Dad (probably scared the crap out of him!) After talking and a lot of drawings (incase you don't know I draw a lot when I'm feeling down!) and SUPER A LOT of advise and comfort, I got back to who I am again. *yay* *cheers*

So, do you guys feel this way too? 
Maybe some of you guys are compared like me to your siblings? A friend who out shines you? Or maybe you have huge expectations placed upon you? I just want to tell you guys, don't compare.

Eh Nina easier than you say la! <--- maybe you're saying this now :) But I want to tell you that is the only thing we can do. I also felt very frustrated to hear my Dad tell me that but it is the truth. The only person you can beat is yourself don't go gauge or compare yourself with someone else! You'll end up very miserable because there is always someone better than you (shan wai you shan) <--- Chinese cheng yu :3

BE WHO YOU ARE AND NOT WHO YOU WANT TO BE

-Nina Neo :D

Haha you've gotta accept yourself! Look a your strengths! You may be able to do something that another person posses but you definitely can do something that the other person can't! 

So, be who you are and not who you want to be! 

THANKS FOR READING.

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